This question I ask myself again and again. With time, the question has become less frequent and also less intense. Still, like today, not much seems to make sense.
I sit at my desk, listen to “Don’t give up” by John Legend, Pink and Herbie Hancock and hope it somehow helps. Try it here below, while reading…
I stare holes into the air.
I think about eating something, probably chocolate.
I have negative thoughts piling up in my mind storage.
I get tired.
I feel down.
I don’t believe I have friends (as Pink tries to convince me in the background)
(You might not guess, but it’s really hard to even write this bloody post!)
I do nothing.
Until I move again.
So later, when someone who won the book wrote an email asking the question in the title, I sat down and wrote an answer. It went something like this:
“This is when self-care is in need. It might be taking myself to bed, resting, crying… or having a cup of tea and staring outside the window. Or, very practically, I might do something productive (and necessary) like cleaning something up. It might sound trivial but there is always the question:
How do I need to be with this?
Possible answers might be:
– take time right now and BE in it (which might be emotionally very taxing and potentially drag you down even more or – healing!)
– avoid it for now
– park it for later and follow the promise to attend it then (make a promise to yourself)
– witness it’s unfolding in the moment with self awareness and mindfulness.
Does this help?
What do you do or not do?