According to a study, 80% of the people interviewed said that ‘they wanted to write a book’. Besides the question about who they were interviewing it seems something I have heard a lot lately from people I know.
So here I am too: I am writing a book!
I first wanted to write a ‘book’ when I was 12 and started writing a story in a notebook. I didn’t get far. I knew how to write a story but had no clue ‘how’ to write a book and given that ‘a’ story does not make a book, I gave up.
After many assignments and essays during my studies I started writing articles and currently I have published an amazing number of 467 articles. I have to say I’m impressed at myself, given that English is my 4th language.
Again, writing article does not make a book but here I’m NOT giving up.
Why am I writing this book?
As many grieving people have experienced, we receive some tremendous support, sprinkled with some more and some less helpful tips and some tremendously inappropriate clichés.
In order to process all my tumultuous time following my daughter’s and my mother’s death, I personally was led to write many blog posts. While I shared the deepest and rawest of my emotional roller coaster I also shared practical suggestions on how I felt best supported. So in response to what was not helpful, I also wrote about what WAS helpful and what COULD be said instead of those clichés which in fact are often just well meant attempt to ‘say something’ at a time when no words do justice.
I also had people asking me for help in their process of grief, which came naturally for me given my profession but also my personal experience.
Through all of this I have been encouraged to write more and in specific a book.
GRIEVING PARENTS BOOK – CHALLENGES TO FACE AFTER LOSS
First I didn’t know how or when or for whom really? Now I do: Grieving parents and the challenges they face as a couple in the aftermath of loss
Following weeks of research I found the perfect match between my professional experience working with clients, especially in the area of relationship challenges and grief, as well as my personal experience of the challenges in my relationships, especially the couple’s relationship following our grief. Given my research, there is plenty of material for grieving mothers, supporting children in their grief, dealing with grief in general etc. but so far I only found very few dealing with the couple’s relationship post grief, especially when losing a child as it affects both parents in some form or other. Given my personal experience I know how challenged I have and still am at times in my relationship with my husband.
What is the book about?
So here we are and this is where I need your help: If you are or know someone who is a ‘Grieving Parent’ I would LOVE you to answer my questionnaire in research for my book. A book is only as good as readers think who have READ the book. So you tell me what you want to have in the book! Here is the survey: https://de.surveymonkey.com/s/RMTP7WW
- Not Dead But Still Grieving (hopeforpassion.wordpress.com)
- 15 October – Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day (hopeforpassion.wordpress.com)
- Capture Your Grief (carlymarieprojectheal.com)
- What Makes You An Expert (Greetgrief.com)
- Loss Grief Transitions and Relationship support (griefrevelations.com)
- 10 points I wish every person knew about the death of a child (mamamia.com.au)