When I lay awake last night and could not sleep this is what came up to write:
Remember: Parents who lost their baby or child do not need the remembrance day to remember. They remember their child every day.
And again, this morning, I was reminded by my fellow blogger ‘A Mourning Mum’ about Dear Sugar’s advice column. She inspired me to read some of his column, where she’s responding to Living Dead Dad.
It beautifully shows dealing with the reality of life after a child’s death:
It is impossible for you to go on as you were before, so you must go on as you never have.
Your boy is dead, but he will continue to live within you. Your love and grief will be unending, but it will also shift in shape. There are things about your son’s life and your own that you can’t understand now. There are things you will understand in one year, and in ten years, and twenty.
I might need to get this book then: